Most people don’t put a lot of thought into their dating profile, and if they do, they have no idea what to write in it in order to make it a high value, stand-out profile.
The worst thing you could do is to not take writing your dating profile seriously. Here’s why:
Because your potential new partner is sifting through hundreds (if not thousands) of online dating profiles and after a while, they all start to blend together and say the same things.
You want to stand out and trigger feelings of excitement and curiosity in the people who are viewing your profile.
Sure, a nice photo of an attractive person can make one stand out – but it takes more than just an attractive person. If you write your dating profile in the right way, you’ll attract higher value people to talk to and go on dates with.
Here are 3 things that make your online dating profile high value:
1: Lead With Playfulness In Your Online Dating Profile
It’s imperative to lead with playfulness in your online dating profile, because most dating profiles are boring, and most online conversations are boring. So you need to go beyond what’s expected and into the realm of the unexpected.
In other words, you need to inspire emotions in your potential dates.
Also, for the ladies out there who want to weed out the time wasters online and attract the high value men who actually want to connect with you, listen up.
It’s important to exhibit the trait of playfulness so that you can appeal to the men who value connection as well as bring out the best in men.
That is part of what makes a woman’s dating profile high value. It brings out the best in the opposite sex!
Online dating is full of average people who may not have the best intentions for you. (They will not respond to your playfulness or your attempts to connect as well as the high value men.)
As such, you want to be deliberate in your attempt to not only connect with genuine guys – but also have your dating profile speak straight to the small number of high value, high quality men on dating apps.
You want to stand out from the boring profiles and inspire positive emotions in the men who are reading your profile.
After all, we are dating to form romantic connection as well as romantic attraction, right?
Playfulness is the instigator of emotional attraction and emotional connection (and both of these feelings lead to the process of falling in love and creating a romantic bond).
So how do you lead with playfulness?
You show that you’re a playful person by including pictures of you being playful, or you can write something silly, exciting or unexpected in your dating profile.
Here’s a good example of a lady who did playfulness perfectly in her profile:
2: Don’t Overshare (Information Is Not Value)
I know you have a lot to share, but since you’re talking to strangers here, no one really cares about the information that you have to share. At least not initially.
They care about the value that you can add, and the value comes primarily through your connection with them as well as the romantic tension you can inspire.
Remember – information isn’t valuable. Emotional connection and emotional attraction are.
3: Show, Don’t Tell
Instead of talking about how you love hiking, tennis or yoga in your spare time – show your love for it by including photos of yourself enjoying the activity.
If you ‘say’ you love something, believe me when I say it sounds like the hundreds of other profiles out there that probably say something similar…
Why should you show it instead of ‘saying’ it?
Because when you say it, you lose the aura of mystery. What are we trying to create here?
We’re trying to attract a romantic partner, and so we need to focus on the two most important things that create and sustain a romantic partnership – emotional attraction and emotional connection.
We’re not looking for just a buddy – so we want to cultivate feelings of mystery and excitement in potential suitors or partners.
Everyone has (or does) something that they’re passionate about, so the best thing for you to do is to offer images of yourself doing these things in action.
When people swipe on your profile and see pictures of you doing something you love – it adds a touch of mystery (because it makes them want to know more about you and how or why you excel at this particular activity).
Summary of the 3 most important things that make your online dating profile high value:
1: Lead With Playfulness In Your Online Dating Profile
2: Don’t Overshare (Information Is Not Value)
3: Show, Don’t Tell
You can find more information about how to make your dating profile great from Elite Singles here.